Neutralization of Anger

Anger is the worst enemy of mankind. Anger is one of the six temperaments arising out of inordinate or unchecked desires. Anger strains the relationship between body and life‑force, between life‑force and mind and between individuals and society. The people in family life are losing their happiness and creating pains and miseries for themselves and others because of anger. Anger raises the blood‑pressure, contributes to heart palpitation, trembling of hands, burning of eyes, ulcers in the stomach and so on.

Controlling or suppressing anger after it has arisen is of no use whatsoever, for the harm to health has already occurred. The force of suppressed anger will generate vengeance, depression and grief. So the best method is to neutralize Anger by or filled up when the mind is fixed on duty and effort is made perseverently with systematic planning.

Everyone has some problems at any given time, and these may come and go. One should not get baffled with the problems, Problems are part of life. Pause and consider what happened with the problems that had already come into your life and how they were settled. Similarly the problems confronting you at present would also be solved in time.

Instead of worrying over a problem, be courageous and find out what best you can do to solve the problem. If a solution does not occur to you at the moment, leave it to Nature and wait for some time. The appropriate solution will come of its own in proper time. Here you have to understand a fact of Nature. A problem would appear daunting only in the beginning; the solution is inbuilt and would become available without fail. We have to find out a formula for this; and if only one follows it systematically, it would be easy to get success in solving all the problems and in relieving the mind of the burden. In the manner you have learnt to deal with thoughts and desires, get paper and pen and list out all the problems you have. Then analyze them and place each problem in any one of the categories given below:

(1) Problems to be faced or endured because they cannot be solved or changed by any means;

(2) Problems which should be ignored because they are insignificant and no difficulty would arise when we neglect them;

(3)   Problems which should be shelved for the present because they will have to be solved by Nature or by the society, at the proper time.

(4) Problems to be taken up for immediate disposal without delay.

These are the four categories under which we have

to classify the problems according to their merits.

For example, a child in the family is afflicted with poliomyelitis and a limb is impaired. Is there any use worrying over this problem? Will not the worrying and grieving weaken you and weaken the child too? You should do all you can to aid the child and equip for its future. This problem would fall in category (1) " to be endured. "

Next, one of your elder relatives is constantly proffering unsolicited advice, or a neighbor is itching to provoke you through sarcastic comments. A quarrel with the critic will only be a waste of energy. Place this, problem in category (2) "to be ignored" and keep your poise. The bother will abate in a very short time if you accord this treatment to it.

You are all ready for a trip abroad but there is delay in getting a visa on account of some change in the policy of the Government. Is there any point in fuming and fretting and kicking against the pricks? Accept the delay, for this problem is in category (3) "to be shelved ."

You are willing to get married but a suitable partner is not in sight. A solution to the problem depends on social and environmental conditions. While not slackening your efforts, you have to develop patience and wait for the proper time. The society and Nature will have to solve the problem. This problem, again, belongs to category (3).

You are afflicted with abdominal pain all of a sudden and you rush to a hospital. They diagnose the ailment as Appendicitis. Surgery is the only way and postponing it may result in danger. What next? Agree to the surgical operation forthwith. In a partnership‑ firm or even among brothers and sisters in a joint‑family, dissension could arise necessitating division or partition of property. Sentiment should then be kept aside and legal steps taken for the separation, as any further delay would only mean increased bitterness and all‑round misery. Such problems fall in category (4) "to be taken up for immediate disposal.

In this manner, when you analyze all the problems your mind will come to the state of settlement and peace. Your work is only to act on the decision you have made.

We should also remind ourselves frequently of the reality of life so that we may not generate unnecessary problems. We came into the world at a point of time and we have to leave it one day. We brought nothing material when we arrived on the planet and we would not be able to take anything on our departure. Circumstances and opportunities are giving everyone some duties according to their personality and responsibility. Just think what best you can do with every incident and occurrence. Limit your mind to your duty. Whatever happens beyond your effort is to be taken as the Divine Will. That is the Law of Nature which is the greatest force that was existing before our birth and would be existing even after our disappearance. Where is the worry? Leave worry itself to do the worrying! While we are alive we have certain responsibilities in regard to our own self and the society. These should be understood well and performed dutifully and successfully, to the satisfaction of self and others. The mind will then become lighter and peaceful. Clarity and ability of the mind will also develop enabling you to solve the problems easily and also to refrain from creating new problems in life.